Okay guys hear me out on this one…
I am no expert on marriage nor have I ever been married but my gosh, marriage these days is just not like it used to be!
1st – People don’t work things out anymore, they give up not knowing it probably could have been sorted out. So they choose the easy way out, without knowing what could have been.
2nd – Divorce has become such a common thing, people are like aggg… We can get married and if it doesn’t work out, we can just get a divorce – like are you mental man??? Why put yourself through that? Why get engaged just rather say; “you know what, I love you but love just isn’t enough for us and we know things are not working, so let’s save each other the hurt!” This is so much better than falling for someone who isn’t in love with you or you might not be fully committed.
3rd – Why do we cheat??? Why man, you choose to be faithful before God and the people at your wedding and most importantly your partner, why do you now wanna bring some other vibe into your marriage because in all honesty, it’s just negative and going to mess up your marriage. Like if you not ready for marriage, DON’T DO IT!!
4th – We need to be able to be open and honest because keeping secrets in marriage is so dumb! Why? You choose to be with this person forever and why would you even think of lying? You going to get caught.
5th – Why are we choosing marriage as a safety option? To keep that person? Trust me, if they don’t want to be with you, the marriage will fail and you will probably be doing the above mentioned because you are comfortable and just settling!!! No man you stealing someone else’s happiness and life partner. STOP IT!!!
Honestly, I am sooo scared to get married because the examples being set these days are just disgusting! I don’t want to fear marriage, I don’t want to feel as if my marriage will one day be a flop, because OH HELL NO!! If it ain’t working tell me. If you cheated, tell me and leave. If you don’t see a future, it’s okay. If all you can do is lie – bye bye honey. If I am the safe option, I’m walking away!!!
We deserve a kind of marriage where we can’t wait to get home, love each other after an argument, cuddle up and be cute together. Not hold a grudge, surprise each other, work on us daily, fall in love with the simple things, laugh uncontrollably together and just flourish – I mean I don’t know what kind of marriage you want but damn, I will not choose a dead one…
Please excuse my vent, I just want us to look forward to a life with someone one day and to find a blessed and true kinda love ❤
Dress – My mom wore 34 years ago
Photography – Carlo Daniels