Just stop!

When you date someone, that person now enters your world, your lifestyle, your day-to-day. Not saying it all happens at once but if you want that person in your space because you see a proper future with them, then you show them “you” to see if they can fit in with everything or at least work with you on this journey.

I don’t know how some people can be in a relationship but cut the one they “love”off or not really show them how much they mean to them, so they only really open up a piece of their world, which I think is super selfish!

If you don’t see that person growing with you, being a little silly from time to time, they don’t make you smile, you always stressed out or it just gets to heavy for you, rather just leave and move on.

You are stopping yourself from finding “true love” and you gonna end up hurting someone you love or even worse being hurt even more.

Just stop!!!!



The “ex” factor

Ladies, ladies, ladies…

So I asked the question a few days ago as to “why does the new girlfriend not like the ex?” And it got me thinking we all have gone through that stage where we just can’t stand her, yet all the guy we with is trying to do, is move on with us and leave her alone because to be honest if he truly wanted to be there her he would leave your sorry ass…

So I lay in bed and wonder what makes us females feel this way?

  • Is it that we feel treathend?
  • Is she causing trouble?
  • Do we think that she’s still in the picture?
  • Are we insecure?
  • Do they still speak?
  • Are they call you their name?
  • Have they left in good terms?
  • Was it a good relationship?
  • Are you jealous of what they had?
  • Maybe the ex ain’t really the ex?

So is it something to really do with the ex or do we need to be working internally?

Like really man like I said before we are all guilty of this including myself and to be honest only when we are truly over the person and allow them to move on will the ex or ex’s never matter cause honey boo thang our handsomely strong men are coming…

Just you wait and see 😉

Photography – Sleeping_panda

Jacket – China Town

T-shirt – Cotton on

Jeans – Cotton on

Socks and Shoes – H&M

Belt – Mothers cupboard

Glasses – Third eye wear

Because it happened…

I read this quote not to long ago “You should never regret anything in life. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it’s an experience.”

Like how true is that? We always seem to think it isn’t! We have this screwed up mindset that if it doesn’t play out the way we want it to, it was the biggest mess up! However when we look back, it could possibly be the best experience or lesson we needed at the time.

Only you can change your life, no one can do it for you! You are the one that can make things great (or not!) It is dependent on your mood if you really think about it!

Walk away knowing that life throws you with the most unexpected things, you gotta choose to live in it or get over it…

Blocked and deleted

For years I have worried what would people like or say and I am someone who forgives and thinks aggg man let’s just be nice…

And yes I do get hurt from time to time, I myself do the hurting but my gosh and I am done with that if you honestly have no way of bringing positivity to my life, honey pie you are going to be blocked and deleted! I don’t see the need in having your negativity in my life?! I have always been someone to help others and put them first, just to get stomped on and left to deal with stuff on my own, now and then I get help along the way but never do I treat you the way you treat me, so imma do me…

I say it again blocked and deleted!!


Scars to your beautiful x


So the first time I had heard this amazing song I honestly just sat and CRIED so much because every line in the song is so true for so many women in the world and we totally need to just go crazy and believe in ourselves…

This is the beginning of the song and it just hits you.

She just wants to be beautiful

She goes unnoticed, she knows no limits

She craves attention, she praises an image

She prays to be sculpted by the sculptor

Oh, she don’t see the light that’s shining

Deeper than the eyes can find it

Maybe we have made her blind

So she tries to cover up her pain and cut her woes away

‘Cause cover girls don’t cry after their face is made


Oh, you’re beautiful, oh, you’re beautiful
And there’s a hope that’s waiting for you in the dark

You should know you’re beautiful just the way you are

And you don’t have to change a thing, the world could change its heart

No scars to your beautiful, we’re stars and we’re beautiful

Oh-oh, oh-oh

And you don’t have to change a thing, the world could change its heart

No scars to your beautiful, we’re stars and we’re beautiful

When I decided to do this post, I honestly just kept overthinking, what are people gonna say, I have way to little clothes on, my body image shouldn’t be in pictures like this, why would I even think of doing this! And I realized it wasn’t actually people, it was me!! Me, myself and I are the worst crit to self image! I put myself down on a daily bases and then social media just adds to it! Looking for attention or should I say confirmation to be “beautiful” but when someone compliments me, I never truly believing the person or take it in!

I told the Photographer, listen I know this is something you will probably be shocked to here me say but this is why I wanna do for this shoot!

We did a few images and I stood there in disbelief, looking at myself and actually thinking “wow Tiff you really are beautiful and your curves look great!” Still trying to look for the flaws of course!

And I wanted to write this post to make women understand that we as females need to be our biggest supporters! We need to be the ones telling ourselves we beautiful, giving off confidence, shining even when we feel dull, making a statement wherever we go, putting ourselves out there as if we are a Model because we can be!! We are all beautiful in our own way…

So with that being said make this song your anthem!!

Scars to your beautiful x


Song – Scars to your beautiful

by Alessia Cara

Photography – Carlo Daniels

Je suis amiée

So I decided to get another tattoo but never really want to put anything on my body that is just for fun, however needs to have a great amount of meaning to me as it will be there for life!!

Let’s get a little bit deep just for a moment. My reason for the tattoo I had gotten on my Thigh is due to the fact that I don’t feel I am worthly of LOVE most times of my life, I have been in long term relationships/friendships and after a few years it ends and I just feel like I won’t ever have that REAL LOVE. Although I feel like I actually people LOVE fully. At times I know I don’t I will admit but yeah we all know when he/she just isn’t the one. My tattoo is in FRENCH – JE SUIS AIMÉE which means I AM LOVED. I choose french as I do feel it can be so romantic and it is called the language of LOVE heeeyyyyyyy lol.

Since I have had the tattoo I can honestly say looking st it daily makes me constantly feel that someone out there LOVES me for me, whether I know the person of not. I know someone does or at least I hope.


Thank you to the amazing team at Sleight of hand for the crazy experience and laughter throughout my sit down, I love my tattoo so much ❤ I will see you again soon 🙂

P.S if you can see I got a small tattoo on my wrist.  I had gotten this with the beautiful lady in my picture above which symbolizes our relationship together which has not ended and if yet to unfold, We got matching tattoos 🙂 love her to bits

struggle is real…


You ever have a feeling that you stuck in something you feel you cannot get out of yet you know you shouldn’t be in it???

It could be a friendship, work place, hotel room or even a family gathering.

I have come to learn that you are the only person that can change that exact situation, no-one else can do it for you. You can be encouraged to move on and turn away, yet you hold the power to actually follow through with the advise given.

Ask yourself these questions :

  • Look at what is bad or not right about the situation
  • Find out what is keeping you there and why?
  • Would it be worth it in the long run?
  • What have people been saying to you, should I listen or just push it a side
  • Should I stay or should I go?
  • In which way will I benefit
  • Can I solve it or will it just get worse if I try?
  • Am I truly happy?

If most of the questions are answered in a negative way GET OUT, as you will be hurting yourself more than anything. To be honest we all deserve to be happy and never have to find ourselves in a situation where we are not ourselves or find that we are just trying to survive or get through the day.

Save yourself from the drama, you deserve better!!!!


Photography – Carlo Daniels